Introducing…something new! YAY!!!!!!!!!! Marriage Works! Will be a series of couple profiles presented to allow us to see the people behind Christian marriages like our own. When you’re in the day to day of real life, it’s hard to remember that you’re not alone or that other couples have the same or worse trials, issues, triumphs and good days as us. I wanted to bring the normal out in the light. It’s not all sunshine and roses, we’re all on different paths, but a happy and healthy marriage is where we all want to be. Hopefully this new series of quick profiles on couples like you and me will give you a sigh of relieve that you’re doing just fine, and if not, maybe we’ll find some ideas or ways to improve our own marriages.
Our first couple is Dean (30) and Rachel (28). Rachel graciously volunteered to answer a few questions.
How did you meet?
We met through my best friend, who is Dean’s cousin.
How long did you know each other/date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged? How long have you been married?
We dated 15 months, knew each other 17 months, engaged 5 months…total 22ish months before marriage. We have been married almost three years 11/10/11.
What is your favorite verse/passage?
Mine is Philippians 3:14 NIV
I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Are you and your spouse Christian?
We are both Christians, raised in Christian homes.
Do you practice submission in your marriage? Why or why not? Did your vows include “obey”?
We do practice submission, but it is mutual…he knows sometimes I am more informed on an issue and lets me make the decision. I also felt convicted of the head covering passage and wear a head covering most of the time. Our vows did include obey, I believe.
How often do you go on a date?
We try to go on a date without the baby once a quarter, grab dinner, see a movie.
What is your personal biggest weakness? How do you try to control it in your marriage?
My biggest weakness is my tongue…I can be brutal. I have told my husband to correct me and call me out on it when I am out of control
If you could go back with all the knowledge you have…what advice would you give to your “before
married” self about your spouse?
Don’t expect him to differ greatly from the life he has always lived, just because he married me.
How many children do you have/want?
We have one, I want five or six, he wants three.
What is your most disagreed upon topic as a couple? How do you handle it when it comes up? Do you feel like there is no compromise on this topic?
We rarely disagree….maybe laundry? He doesn’t think it needs to be anything more than washed and dried….all over the floor instead of folded or hanging up is perfectly fine,
What is your favorite advice given to you about marriage/spouses?
Listen to him, even when you don’t want to, obey him…God put him there for a reason.
How satisfied are you both with your intimate time and the frequency?
We would both like more sex, but our LO is making things difficult lately…but I would say we are both satisfied generally speaking…
If helpful, how has that benefited your marriage? If a hindrance, how do you deal with that as a couple?
Our parents generally are helpful. They help us with baby stuff, etc. Both of our families would like more time with is, which is hard. My husbands parents are incompetent on many levels, which he recognizes, and we get through the issues pretty smoothly.
Well that was nice, wasn’t it? I can totally relate to the out of control tongue part, it’s comforting to see that I’m not alone, but it was even better to see she’s not afraid or too proud to have him call her down. I don’t do so well with that!
How do you feel after reading about another couple and their inner workings? Was it nice to see in? Helpful or upsetting? Are there any questions you’d like to see included? Do you want to participate in the Marriage Works series? If so, leave a comment with your email (I’ll edit it out).