It’s late, and quiet. D is sleeping, YAY! He’s been dealing with insomnia, so we are thankful when he sleeps at night. Yeah, I know you don’t care…let’s move along.
I started 2 other posts tonight, one on Entitlement and one on Change. Neither of them flowed out, and from experience that means I have tons to say…it’ll come when it’s ready. I also wanted to start writing more about gratitude and being thankful for things in my life. This blog will never be updated daily, I think that’s boring, I don’t even want to know what happens with me every day, so I’m sure you have better things to do. I can feel that I have lots going through my head and need to get some of it out, let’s see where this goes.
Seems lately that I’ve been involved in more than one “heated” debate about a few things. Girl Scouts, fathers shooting up laptops, Planned Parenthood, Susan G Komen, breastfeeding, Whitney Houston and the flag, Obama, and gay rights to name a few. I’m NOT getting into that here, and if you try to hijack my post I’ll delete your comment…I don’t really care what your thoughts are about any of that, so there. I’ve realized through those conversations, mainly on FB, that people often forget their manners and basic home training when they realize someone doesn’t agree with them, and *GASP* they aren’t listening to their side or better, changing their minds. It amazes me how full of themselves people are, there is a difference in standing up for your beliefs or a cause and being a pushy, childish idiot. I actually unfriended 2 people, and was unfriended by 3 people over more than one conversation in the last few months…actual friends, not FB friends.
I find nothing wrong with stating your side, arguing your side, believing in whatever you believe in. In fact, if you don’t stand up for what you think is right, then what’s the point? I don’t want to be your friend if you have no opinion on anything. For real. I enjoy a good debate/talk/discussion about anything. What I don’t enjoy is people attacking others for a random statement, or when you’ve stated your side and I’ve stated mine and I don’t succumb to your views. What kind of world would this be if we all agreed on everything? Boring. Even in the home D and I don’t agree on stuff, hell we don’t agree on how to load the dishwasher, or what temperature to keep the thermostat at. You can ask him…I love to discuss how wrong his way is, and I know full and well I’m not changing his mind on it, but I have to state my case. I don’t expect to change anyone’s mind…but once you are informed of both sides, yours and the opposing one, and I have given reasons, and support for my views, the ball is in your court on what to do with the information. Does it not occur to people that if you wouldn’t change your mind to agree with me, then no amount of your disagreeing with me is going to change mine?
That goes twice for my religious beliefs. The morals/beliefs/Biblical principles I was raised to believe and choose to believe as an adult trump your argument that you are a good person. Being a good person is not a principle, it’s a characteristic we should all possess, and as harsh as it sounds, no, that alone won’t get you into heaven. Not my rules…don’t whine to me. I’m tired of people using the counter that religious beliefs are unfair, or against our commandment to love one another and judge not. We are to love the person, not the offense, and there are times when you are allowed to judge – study your Bible. Why is it that non-Christians can’t just present the information needed and then hush? I wonder why you so vehemently have to defend your views if you feel they are right, can’t you just sit back and know you are right? I make it a point to not argue, but to find backup for whatever I’m stating. If that means you keep disagreeing with what is said, then have fun with that, I’m not God…I don’t have to deal with you after I’ve done my part. To inform someone on a topic where there is a Biblical disagreement (or someone that doesn’t acknowledge the Bible) is different than presenting information on something you are passionate about. Passion is not commanded in the Bible, a non-Christian can just sit back and think they are right all day long and you won’t go to hell any faster than if you argued about your side all day long. However, for someone that is religious/following God’s commandments, we are to spread the word and share it with those that are lost. One problem is that in our society too many people think that doing good is enough, they don’t feel lost. My view is that if you are supporting things that are against God, then you aren’t informed of what He said. If you are informed and not following what He said, then I have even MORE of a duty to help you see the light since you have chosen to ignore it. I can’t sit back and go “eh, let him be wrong…no biggie.” You may not understand the difference, but when you are a Christian there is a huge difference in what you can and cannot ignore. Being a Christian does not afford me the luxury of being silent while others sail along their own river of demise.
My goals for getting involved in the topics on FB were to be informative, have conversation and because I like to be heard (shocker). I TRY to use articles, proof, facts or anything that backs up my view when involved in a heated discussion. It seems though, that others like to just get involved to disagree, and try to strong arm others, or belittle them when there is a minority present and they have backup. I’m always amazed at the things people throw out there with no proof or backup and then further stunned when they act offended when you ask for the basis of their statement. Does no one know that we aren’t all idiots and don’t just accept what we are told? When did it become ok to just take things as truth?
I’m really not surprised by much anymore on FB (or in life), it’s almost daily that someone posts some annoying picture on FB or via email about a warning or “support” whatever by reposting this hurt child/dog/military/medical/gang initiation picture. Can you tell how much that stuff bothers me? Why is it that people that know they are sending information out just hit “share” without checking the validity or using common sense before further spreading things that are old, false, or just plain do NOTHING to show your support for XYZ cause? Want to show support for battered women? Go volunteer at a shelter. Want to support the troops? Write letters, send care packages, say thank you. Want to support equal rights? Vote, go volunteer at the organization of your choice. STOP re-posting pictures and thinking you’re actually doing something good. The problem with FB and email forwards is that it gives people a false sense of doing something…and then no one is doing anything. Oh, I posted this picture of a flight attendant with a feel good story about some old mean white lady complaining about an Indian man on her flight…so I’m not a racist and I’m a good person. No you aren’t, you didn’t check to see that that story was FAKE, has been circulating for years, and just gets changed depending on what flavor of the year is on our radar as the “unwanted” race. Don’t give me that crap about how “it’s a good moral, who cares if it’s real or not?” I DO, and so do most people. What about the moral of getting off your butt and actually supporting something?
I’ll hush on that front, I think you get the point. Don’t share stuff if you didn’t see it, and you didn’t research it to find out if it’s real. We aren’t going to stop for a baby seat on the side of the road, we were warned of that via email 8 years ago. I promise not to go around licking the tops of cans because someone may have laced them with cocaine…I learned my lesson the summer of ’02. If Apple/Coke/Microsoft/FB is going to start charging, or will give me a free anything for sharing or clicking, they need a better AP/AR department, because they’ve been saying they were going to do that for years now. Hang on, I have to give this Nigerian man my routing number…Blessings to you too.
Oh, I got off topic. Not sorry. It just seems that we have lost common sense. We have forgotten that social media is just that, social.
adjective1.pertaining to, devoted to, or characterized by friendly companionship or relations: a social club.2.seeking or enjoying the companionship of others; friendly; sociable; gregarious.3.of, pertaining to, connected with, or suited to polite or fashionable society: a social event.4. living or disposed to live in companionship with others or in a community, rather than in isolation:
Yes, you can stand up for what you believe in, you can support a cause, you can share your likes and dislikes, and you can be whatever religion you want to be. You should refrain from pissing people off, ruining your friendships, or being overall douchy when someone doesn’t believe what you do. If you’re going to do those things, then you’ll quickly find yourself in need of more friends and no one to be social with.
I blog better with tunes…tonight’s awesome playlist courtesy of SiruisXM 90’s on 9 and The Pulse:
Des’ree – You Gotta Be
Poison – Something to Believe In
Tupac – California Love
The Offspring – Pretty Fly (for a white guy) – why does he say 5 two times?
Train – Hey Soul Sister
Greenday – Basket Case
Len – Steal my Sunshine
Billy Idol – Cradle of Love
The Fugees – Killing me Softly (with his song) – 2 times
En Vogue – Free Your Mind
Matchbox 20 – 3 am