Seems like most of my posts have a hint of the message that everything happens for a reason. Where we are, where we’ve been, where we are heading, whether we know it or not, like it or not, or accept it or not, it all happens for a reason.
On Father’s Day, I wanted to say something about Big Daddy and let the world know how amazing he is. As I usually am at the beginning of a post I don’t know where to start, there’s just too much to say about him. He’s important to so many people (and pets) that words just aren’t enough.
Getting together as a couple with children of our own, from previous marriages, produces enough challenges on it’s own. Add in ex’s, teenage years, children making new people and your first year of marriage and you qualify for sainthood. I try to exude an air of confidence, pulled-togetherness, and overall calm happy…I fail miserably. D on the other hand, does all of it and even gets me to buy it. In our talks I recognize when he is stressed, and down, or having a rough time, but as the husband and father figure of this crew he has been more than I knew a man should be. He has led, taught, loved, laughed, disciplined, and remained constant to who he presented himself to be when we got together. I am proud and happy to have chosen him as my husband and as a parental figure to my/now our children.
As a parent myself, I have not been, or ever claimed to be perfect. Where my kids are in life is a direct result of decisions I’ve made. However, where they are headed is a direct result of what a strong family, good parents and a good Christian man can lead his family to. Raising children is never easy, and never goes exactly as planned. Along the way there are people that aren’t who you thought they were, you are sometimes not who you need to be, children make decisions against everything you’ve instilled in them, yet still, we as parents are commanded to train up a child in the way he should go. This cannot be achieved without parents and especially a father who is under the command of God.
On Father’s Day I want single out my children, who are truly ours, however I want D to know that I appreciate the man God put in my life and in the lives of my children. I want to thank him for being who God wants him to be, and thereby being who I need him to be and who my children need him to be. I’m proud that my children, of their own accord, call you Dad and Daddy!
I want to mention, as hard as it is, that sometimes life doesn’t go the way we want it to. We lose people for periods of time, that should be with us, and we don’t understand why things happen. As we are going on month 6 of no contact with D’s daughter, it’s hard to keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. My heart breaks to know that he is such a wonderful father, yet his own child is not around to benefit from all he has to offer. I sit here both happy that my daughter is off visiting her dad, and sad that I miss her for the month she is gone, yet I get to talk to her each day and she is coming back. It’s both comforting to me that D has our other children, grandchildren and even an amazing nephew that all need him and want him to be a huge part of their lives. We have talked about this and feel that part of our union was to prepare and help D through this phase of his relationship with B. It’s just hard to remember that on days like today.
I love you with all of my heart, you are the best husband, father, brother, uncle and grandfather we could ever dream of.