Today was 41 years since my sister (click that for her blog) was born. Every year my momma used to call us on our birthday and say “this time ____ years ago, I was in labor/giving birth/holding you for the first time/screaming in pain/drugged up”…insert whatever sentiment she was feeling that year.
Every year we used to laugh and guess what she was going to say to us, and every year we enjoyed and waited for that call. My sister hasn’t had that call in 4 birthdays. Next month is my birthday and it will be 5 birthdays without that call. Mom passed between our birthdays and on my daughters birthday Jan 24.
I didn’t plan to do a post tonight, or plan to bring up mom, but my sister deserves something for how amazing she is, and she deserves to be celebrated. I can’t possibly cover how much I love her or how much she does for me and has done over the years. To me she has been a big sister, protector, mother and my best friend since I was born. Urs, I love you dearly, and am proud to be your little sister.
This time 41 years ago, you were in mom’s arms. How lucky were you?
I lost my mom in 2003 to pancreatic cancer. My sisters and I hospiced her for 3 months. My daughter was also there with us. She was 9. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. I know you already know this – but celebrate the people in your life, every day.
This is for you and your sister – from me and my sisters
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Thank you for your kind words.
We are very thankful for each other. My mother was a great woman, she is missed deeply by all of us, however she is in a better place and no longer in pain.
I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what that must be like. You are blessed to have each other.
I wish you a very special Happy Birthday! Big Sis! May all your wishes come true!
It’s hard to imagine losing anyone, and losing a parent is one of the worst feelings in the world.
Thank you for your sweet comment!
What I nice post. What a great little sister you are. The loss of a prent is never easy we are dealing with this right now my MIL passed away in November.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m never good with words when others experience loss…partly because I don’t want to make people feel worse. I hope you all find comfort through God and prayer…and time.
~Mel
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Figured I’d paste my response here also, since I am at a loss for words over this post. Definitely missing mom and birthdays tend to really bring the heartache out when she’s no longer here. How can someone so full of life and love be so gone, only to leave a memory and ME and YOU! It’s just too sad, and I don’t know that the sting will ever go away, and yet… she brought us life, and gave us an abundance of everything to be thankful for. For that I am grateful.
As for your post here… you are too kind. I love you with all of my heart… and you’ve captured my heart with your words once again. Thank you for the birthday wishes, but more for loving me each and every day! I love you always.
Urs
I read your reply and all I can think was – Why were you awake at 2:15 am???
You do rock, and I hardly think this post was eloquent. I hope you had a happy birthday, I’m sorry I wasn’t there.
You still need to schedule your massage, and I’m excited for you to get the mail tomorrow!
Mel,
My thoughts are with you and your sister. Cancer is so dreadful…
Thank you:) I do want to clarify, my mother did not have cancer. She had Scleroderma and Reynaud’s Phenomenon, both of which contributed to her being sick for years and ultimately her body was too fragile to deal.
http://www.scleroderma.org/medical/raynauds_overview.shtm
http://www.scleroderma.org/medical/newly-diagnosed/newly-diagnosed.shtm