EDIT: As of 10 hours after posting this, it is my most read blog post ever…with no comments. I know there are thoughts, and I encourage you to write them!
So guess what, I’m tired of it too, and this guy disagrees with me…but he’s right, and you should read it. All of it, even if you cringe at first.
Over the past week, I have eaten at CFA (and before), it’s not because I hate gay people, or because I want to “win” and prove that Christians have rights too, and it’s certainly not because they are healthy. No one is winning here, and since I don’t personally have a dog in the fight, and would only be eating at CFA because they are “Christian” from now on, I see (from his words) that it’s not ok.
Whether it’s CFA’s doing, or the “Christian public” – this whole thing has been handled horribly by anyone wanting to stand up and show the world what Christians believe in and what we will rally for. We rally for chicken? We rally to show those gays that they are WRONG and we will put all our money into heart clogging food to prove that point? We encourage a company that twice removes itself (from direct donation) so they can continue to say they aren’t discriminatory and homophobic? I am not homophobic, I am also not discriminatory. CFA in it’s stores is also not discriminatory, however, as I’ve been told (that is the main argument from the “other side”) – they spend their well earned sandwich money on other organizations that clearly and proudly discriminate and even go further than that.
As a Christian, no, I don’t believe that marriage is defined by opposite sex partners, but I have that right. That will not change, it’s my belief based on my own research and my own upbringing. I also know for a fact that many of the “Christians” in major support of CFA would not be loving or nurturing or open to an openly gay couple that walked into their church. I know first hand how judgemental Christians are. Try being 16 and pregnant in a private school. However, my beliefs are not what’s up for debate here and I really don’t care if you like my view or not. However, I can change the way that those I do not agree with view my beliefs and my way of upholding them.
I said yesterday, that I can completely see the “other view” – there are lines around the building in every city, for chicken…where are the lines for the homeless shelters? Where are the lines for the hospitals to hold babies addicted to drugs, or hold the hand of a person going through chemo? Where are the Christians who want to make a real difference? They’re in line for a sandwich.
Through none of this, would I, if I were gay or a non-Christian, feel loved, and ministered to. I would not feel like going to church, or reaching out to anyone that is supporting CFA or spouting “we’re winning” or that CFA is tops. Ask yourself this, my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ…at what point, if you were not a Christian, would you stop one of these Christians standing in line, posting pictures or shaking their fists up in victory to ask “why is it you are so happy and your life is wonderful and you have this spark?” I have not seen any Christian spark, not in myself and not in others that are so adamant about supporting CFA. I have not seen the “light” that we are to shine among men. I would do exactly as they have done, and fight back because they feel attacked. Christians were not attacked, at any point in this, until we stood up to support CFA. Dan Cathy didn’t even attack, he stated what most of us Christians agree with and also believe, however he swept under the rug the part that is really making the “other side” upset. The donations. I’ve researched, the claims are correct, the organizations that CFA supports (indirectly down the line) are very discriminatory and even predatory on the gay community, and others that don’t agree with them.
It’s being touted that CFA stands up for “family values” – so does that mean your Christian family wants to eat unhealthy, and fall in with the crowd (as Christians we are called to be different and stand for what is right in the face of wrong). To me, wrong is pushing anyone further away from God. Does your family value pictures stating “we won” (over chicken) or do you want the non-Christian public to view you exactly like they view Westboro? That is not what I want to support, nor how I want to bring others to Christ.
What I also will not be supporting is openly pro-gay companies that I disagree with. Again, that is my choice, where I put my money. There are tons of companies that I’m sure support things I do not agree with, as long as they aren’t singing it from the rooftops and I need their products, then not just me, but all of us are going to have to use them. However, we should be aware that at any time, we may have to stop supporting them if they stand up and we disagree.
It is OUR duty as Christians to be a good example and love those that are not like us, and that aren’t our brothers and sisters in Christ. Does it say we are to love only those that are receptive and take on our views? NO. As I’ve heard and seen on facebook, don’t judge others because they sin differently than you do.
Matthew 5:16 ESV
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
1 Peter 3:15 ESV
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,
Philippians 2:1-4 ESV
So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, ...
Did you read that last verse? Read it again…and tell me…as a Christian, this past week, have you looked to the interest of others or your own? As a Christian, I do not support gay marriage. I support gay unions, and gay people, and I have no issues with them, they are part of my family, and I have been close friends for years with some very openly gay couples. My beliefs have not changed, however my willingness to support the discrimination and vilifying of my friends and family has.