It’s been almost a year since I blogged. I have about 20 drafts of things that I’ve wanted to write about in that time, but nothing that was a complete thought. My plan is to start typing and see what comes out. It may come as one big blog, or may come as a few each day until I feel I have things out of my head and here for all to see. All I know is that a year can make a huge difference in our lives. Good, bad, sad, happy, scary, fun and totally out of left field, but we are lucky to still be around to tell about what we’ve been through.
I hope you are doing well…sorry I was gone so long!
I don’t know if you noticed, but I had to close it down for a little while. With lots of personal developments and
nosey people eyes on things, I decided to take a step back and tighten up around here. So, most things are back on track, and you can again view posts.
If you didn’t notice, then WELCOME! Glad to have you:)
There’s a special occasion today, and for one day, I’m going to open up a bit about what it is I/we do…read on.
I have known, for years now, that my husband is amazing. I have even blogged about it on a few occasions. The times that I find myself thinking what a great husband and man he is are far more than the times I question his actions or intentions. I’m not trying to imply that he’s perfect, as we all have our moments, but more often than not, to me, he is.
I don’t discuss business on here, but for those that don’t know, we work together from home. It’s been a lifesaver when children are sick, or there are school functions, or when you just don’t feel like going to “work.” For us it has blessed our marriage by allowing us to truly get to know each other and bond. That bond translates to better parenting, better family ties, us being happier, and has allowed us to make a stronger team against outside forces. We all face stress, trials, and attacks from the outside world and un-Godly forces, and the ability to be confident in your partner and know you have someone that has your back is the best gift you can give yourself and your spouse. We often get questions ranging from “how do you spend ALL DAY together” to “do you really enjoy being around each other that much?” The answer is the same from either of us…yes, most certainly. My business partner respects me, backs me up with tough clients, steps in when I’ve had enough of someone, and is amazing in his work ethic and ability to land clients. There is no one I’d rather spend all day with.
So, with that preface, I’m proud to announce that D has become a weekly blogger on a Christian website! I am proud of him for being a provider and I’m proud that others view him as the strong business man, and man of God he is. You will quickly see, in his writing, that he has a gift for words and conveying a message that hits home. Please share it as we want him to have the opportunity to be a blessing to as many people as we can reach. There is always the possibility that there are business minded people that want information, and if it’s presented in a Christlike manner two efforts can be accomplished in one manner. The Christian Work At Home Ministries site is a great tool for learning about building business, working from home, and glorifying God in our lives.
So, with that introduction, please check him out at the link below, and be sure to follow us on Facebook and check back weekly at either link for his business blog entries!
Click here for his first post – What brought me home!
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You know I love talking about it, and I’ll admit that I’m not perfected at it, but it is my goal. Thought I’d share this blog post today, to show those that don’t “get it” that I’m not a rare breed…lots of us “get it.” This post focuses on the abuser, and how it is NOT the intent of submission.
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EDIT: As of 10 hours after posting this, it is my most read blog post ever…with no comments. I know there are thoughts, and I encourage you to write them!
So guess what, I’m tired of it too, and this guy disagrees with me…but he’s right, and you should read it. All of it, even if you cringe at first.
Over the past week, I have eaten at CFA (and before), it’s not because I hate gay people, or because I want to “win” and prove that Christians have rights too, and it’s certainly not because they are healthy. No one is winning here, and since I don’t personally have a dog in the fight, and would only be eating at CFA because they are “Christian” from now on, I see (from his words) that it’s not ok.
Whether it’s CFA’s doing, or the “Christian public” – this whole thing has been handled horribly by anyone wanting to stand up and show the world what Christians believe in and what we will rally for. We rally for chicken? We rally to show those gays that they are WRONG and we will put all our money into heart clogging food to prove that point? We encourage a company that twice removes itself (from direct donation) so they can continue to say they aren’t discriminatory and homophobic? I am not homophobic, I am also not discriminatory. CFA in it’s stores is also not discriminatory, however, as I’ve been told (that is the main argument from the “other side”) – they spend their well earned sandwich money on other organizations that clearly and proudly discriminate and even go further than that.
As a Christian, no, I don’t believe that marriage is defined by opposite sex partners, but I have that right. That will not change, it’s my belief based on my own research and my own upbringing. I also know for a fact that many of the “Christians” in major support of CFA would not be loving or nurturing or open to an openly gay couple that walked into their church. I know first hand how judgemental Christians are. Try being 16 and pregnant in a private school. However, my beliefs are not what’s up for debate here and I really don’t care if you like my view or not. However, I can change the way that those I do not agree with view my beliefs and my way of upholding them.
I said yesterday, that I can completely see the “other view” – there are lines around the building in every city, for chicken…where are the lines for the homeless shelters? Where are the lines for the hospitals to hold babies addicted to drugs, or hold the hand of a person going through chemo? Where are the Christians who want to make a real difference? They’re in line for a sandwich.
Through none of this, would I, if I were gay or a non-Christian, feel loved, and ministered to. I would not feel like going to church, or reaching out to anyone that is supporting CFA or spouting “we’re winning” or that CFA is tops. Ask yourself this, my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ…at what point, if you were not a Christian, would you stop one of these Christians standing in line, posting pictures or shaking their fists up in victory to ask “why is it you are so happy and your life is wonderful and you have this spark?” I have not seen any Christian spark, not in myself and not in others that are so adamant about supporting CFA. I have not seen the “light” that we are to shine among men. I would do exactly as they have done, and fight back because they feel attacked. Christians were not attacked, at any point in this, until we stood up to support CFA. Dan Cathy didn’t even attack, he stated what most of us Christians agree with and also believe, however he swept under the rug the part that is really making the “other side” upset. The donations. I’ve researched, the claims are correct, the organizations that CFA supports (indirectly down the line) are very discriminatory and even predatory on the gay community, and others that don’t agree with them.
It’s being touted that CFA stands up for “family values” – so does that mean your Christian family wants to eat unhealthy, and fall in with the crowd (as Christians we are called to be different and stand for what is right in the face of wrong). To me, wrong is pushing anyone further away from God. Does your family value pictures stating “we won” (over chicken) or do you want the non-Christian public to view you exactly like they view Westboro? That is not what I want to support, nor how I want to bring others to Christ.
What I also will not be supporting is openly pro-gay companies that I disagree with. Again, that is my choice, where I put my money. There are tons of companies that I’m sure support things I do not agree with, as long as they aren’t singing it from the rooftops and I need their products, then not just me, but all of us are going to have to use them. However, we should be aware that at any time, we may have to stop supporting them if they stand up and we disagree.
It is OUR duty as Christians to be a good example and love those that are not like us, and that aren’t our brothers and sisters in Christ. Does it say we are to love only those that are receptive and take on our views? NO. As I’ve heard and seen on facebook, don’t judge others because they sin differently than you do.
Matthew 5:16 ESV
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
1 Peter 3:15 ESV
But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect,
Philippians 2:1-4 ESV
So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, ...
Did you read that last verse? Read it again…and tell me…as a Christian, this past week, have you looked to the interest of others or your own? As a Christian, I do not support gay marriage. I support gay unions, and gay people, and I have no issues with them, they are part of my family, and I have been close friends for years with some very openly gay couples. My beliefs have not changed, however my willingness to support the discrimination and vilifying of my friends and family has.
Another Father’s Day and an opportunity to appreciate those that have raised us, loved us and provided for us, and continue to do so. I am thankful to have some amazing men in my life, all with their own ways of loving the children they are fathers to.
My son is young, he (much like me) got a jump on parenting and began in his late teens. I don’t think for a minute that he was ready or had a clue how much stress and love would be involved in having children at any age, much less as a teenager. You always try to prepare your kids for things you’ve been through, and pray that they heed the warning that it was hard, or it sucked at times. Even with those descriptions, they know the love you have for them and have shown them through those times, and that they made it through all your bad parenting decisions, and they don’t see it as such a bad thing. I don’t view any of being a teenage parent as a “mistake” – it’s simply something beautiful done at the wrong time for most people. We aren’t ready at that age, we don’t know everything we should, and we have no desire to listen to those that do know what we should do. We are still children ourselves. Through that, I raised an amazing son, and my amazing son, is raising his sons with the same love and trial and error I did. He has learned a lot in the 2 years he has been a daddy, and as he makes choices and learns the consequences of them, he is learning that I was right…it’s not easy, but it is totally worth it. It’s hard to watch him flounder and do things totally different than I would, just as I’m sure it was for my mom, but I am very proud of him, and the choice he has made to stand up and take responsibility for the children God has placed in his life.
I’ve never had a father in law like D’s dad. It was a bit scary coming into a family with a preacher as your new father in law. While we were dating, D’s parents came to Georgia while D stayed in North Carolina for work. I vaguely remembered them from around school and church when we were little, but past that, there was no relationship and I had no idea “how” they were. D assured me that they would love me, but I was still so scared to have them come visit me without him present. So nervous, that before they came to visit, I changed my blue nail polish because I didn’t want his mother to think anything odd of me. I had enough to offer without blue nails though…let’s see, 2 divorces – check, teenage son with a kid on the way – check, making his son drive 2 states away to date me – check…yeah, not good. Except, it was. In fact, I’ve learned from the entire family, that there is nothing that surprises them or takes them out of their comfort zone. No family is perfect, and my imperfect background was nothing of consequence to him (or them). His only requirement and concern about me was that I love Jesus and am a Christian, and that I love his son unconditionally and without reservation. I am proud to be a part of his family and even more thankful that my husband had such a strong example of what a man is to teach him how to love and protect me, and how to love and raise our children.
My dad and I have something different than most people. I don’t remember lots of the details of when my parents divorced. I know things now that my mom has told me, or my sister, or that my dad has eluded to that he is not proud of having done. I still don’t have a clear bone to pick with him since I didn’t have those feelings of anger/betrayal at the time things occurred. I have held resentment for what he put my mother, my sister and me through later in life because of his decisions, and for not sticking to his pledge to love, honor, and cherish my mom. However, we all make mistakes, sometimes they are small and just annoying bumps in the road, and sometimes they will forever effect our lives and the lives of those around us. I can’t say that I’ve forgotten all the things I know about what happened, but I do forgive him, and now that he is willing to know about me and my life and I am witnessing him make an effort to be involved and talk to me, I find it much easier to have conversations with him without feeling like it’s just a formality. My dad has had health issues lately, and after losing my mom, I don’t want to lose him and regret not being adult enough to move past any hurt feelings I have in order to show him love that we all deserve. He is not perfect, but he made four amazing daughters who love him more than he probably realizes.
Last year on Father’s Day I talked about how amazing D is. As the father figure in our children’s daily lives, he consistently loves, raises, cares for and does everything in his power to ensure that the children we have are aware of his love, and the expectations of them on their behavior and actions while learning and growing up. It’s pretty hard to be a father to a child that chooses to walk a path that is not in line with how a child should be raised, but even through that hardship he has taken on 2 children that are not his biologically and treated them as his own. He is under no requirement to be a parent to my children, however he does it happily, with grace and strength, and with God’s love and guidance on a daily basis. It has allowed them to bloom, grow and learn to be comfortable with the man they have in their daily lives by trusting him, and knowing that he loves them when they are wrong and loves them when they are right. There is nothing more special to a mother than having a man, that treats their children as they should be treated. My life is much easier, smoother, and happier having a man that loves his family as selflessly as he does.
Happy Father’s Day to you all, you are all greatly and deeply loved!
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